How do I meet somebody safely the first time?

Three things do most of the work: meet somewhere public, get yourself there and back, and tell somebody where you are going.

1. Pick a public place. A gym you both know is a good one.
2. Arrange your own way there and your own way home.
3. Tell a friend where you are going, who with, and when you expect to be back.

If they push back on any of that, report them.

Last updated 2026-09-07